Welcome back to week 2 of this 7-week series, where I will be uncovering the 7 Key Abilities to Succeed 7 Days a Week. Last week we talked about ability #1, Believability, the ability to belief in yourself. Without that, you just might be setting yourself up to fail before you even begin. Today we will be discussing ability #2, Unavailability. What do I mean by unavailability? Well I'm glad you asked!
Unavailability is the ability to be unavailable. And that means mastering the art of politely saying "No." It's a simple word, but sometimes extremely hard to say. How good are you at saying, "No." or, "I'm sorry, I'm unavailable for that."?
For most of my life I've suffered from a horribly debilitating disease, which you yourself might suffer from, too, it's called "people pleasing." I couldn't tell people no. I didn't realize that when I said yes to one thing, I was saying no to something else, something way more important to me. When I'd say yes to working late, I was unintentionally saying no to spending quality time with my wife.
Just like budgeting your finances, you need to budget your time. You may have heard of this concept, it's called Time-Blocking. The key is to decide beforehand, because the easiest decision to make is the one you've already made.
So sometime today, I challenge you to do something that most people have never done: sit down and define what matters most to you. Then use that as a guide to help you plan your year, your month, your week, your day…your life. Would you like to exercise more often? Put it in your schedule. Would you like to get more sleep each night? Put it in your schedule. Would you like to spend more time with your family? Whatever it may be, if it truly matters to you, put it in your schedule! Become a better budgeter of your time.
It comes down to this: If you want to be available for the things that are important to you, you must become unavailable for the things that aren't.
Does your calendar accurately reflect what matters most to you?
Stay tuned for next week, when I uncover the third ability we all need to succeed…7 days a week.